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Lola Renda's avatar

You’ve helped me concentrate on end of life care more than ever before. So many emotions versus practicality; not mature enough to merge the two.

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Stacey Kowbel's avatar

Hugs to you. And yes, always hug your loved ones every chance you get. I went through that with my dad, never knowing each month I left him to fly back home if I would get to talk to him again or hug him again. It's not an easy path to walk.

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Dawn Levitt's avatar

I talk to him on the phone daily, but I will be heading back to Tennessee next month. I hope he's still doing as well as he was when I left.

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Stacey Kowbel's avatar

That's great, I love that ❤️

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CHERYL POTANCE's avatar

I’m sorry you’re going thru this. When cancer is involved, it eventually becomes comfort over cure. I too went thru this same decision 10 years ago with my husband. Hospice is so much more humane than the endless rounds of chemo and radiation when it’s a terminal diagnosis. Prayers for you and your dad ❤️

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Dawn Levitt's avatar

I'm sorry you had to go through that with your husband. Yes, our experience with hospice has been very positive so far. They delivered oxygen the same day we told him he was short of breath and called in a prescription for pain meds within an hour of him telling the nurse he was having 9 out of 10 pain. Noting that he told the nurse, not me when I asked if he was in pain.

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Francesca's avatar

Ah! This sounds so hard on so many levels. Sending strength and love!

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Dawn Levitt's avatar

It is difficult. There should be an instruction manual.

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Francesca's avatar

Indeed!

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Janis Satre's avatar

Thanks for this Dawn. I’m grateful that your dad has you. Not everyone has someone that cares, let alone will advocate for them.

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Dawn Levitt's avatar

I've been fortunate enough to have my husband and a few close friends there for me when I faced my own life and death struggles, so I am trying to do that for him.

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Linda Clinton's avatar

Sending you all the love.

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Dawn Levitt's avatar

Thank you.

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Adrienne DeMaster's avatar

A virtual hug to you. Greta sends a cuddle as well.

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Dawn Levitt's avatar

Puppy cuddles are always welcome.

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Ann Goltz's avatar

Your father is fortunate to have such a caring and competent advocate. So sorry you're both going through this.

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Dawn Levitt's avatar

Well, my perspective is that we all die eventually. But everyone deserves a good death, on their own terms. Hopefully, we can deliver that for him.

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Rilla Jaggia's avatar

So sorry for what you are going through. Hugs.

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Dawn Levitt's avatar

I'm not the first one to deal with such things. I really wish there was an instruction manual.

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Jack Lessenberry's avatar

You are one wonderful daughter

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Dawn Levitt's avatar

I'm just trying to do the least harm and ease the most pain.

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Linda Clinton's avatar

That is truly a perspective borne of love.♥️

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Dawn Levitt's avatar

Love and anxiety. I second guess every decision I make.

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Linda Clinton's avatar

I'm quite certain you are making the best decisions with the information available. I know it's easy for me to say...try not to beat yourself up!

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